Tag Archives: Consent
From The Mailbag: Coming Out Kinky
Dear Parks, What do you think about being out/coming out as kinky? Any advice or tips on how to navigate being a deviant? Please visit soon, Milwaukee, WI I was not sure how much longer I would keep this blog fairly BDSM/kink-free. Recently, so many of my students and peers have been asking me about […]
Why Consent Needs to Be More Than “Sexy”
The “Consent Is Sexy” campaign is important. It is a positive thing for many reasons. I am glad it exists. I am glad that people are wearing the pins, are doing things like Slutwalk, and starting to talk about consent. I am glad that people like my dad, who grew up never having heard about […]
Defining Sex: Self-Identity, and Third Wave Musings
What is sex? How do you know when you have had sex with someone? What is the point of sex? Doin’ it is just so complex. It is. Honestly. I see sex as a process of communication. It’s about closeness, trusting others to respect you as you make yourselves vulnerable to each other. Sex is […]
From the Mail Bag: Consensual Non-Consent
This is the first post in a series where I answer your questions about consent, healthy relationships, and really whatever you think I can answer for you. I really love this weeks question, and I am super excited about answering it. And as always, if anyone has anything constructive to add, please feel free […]
Getting “Over It” (a brief manifesto)
(trigger warning for blunt discussion of sexual assault) The other night I hung out with two of my best and most brilliant friends. We made pasta with capers and pine nuts, drank tea, and discussed our activism and how we each feel rape culture should be combatted. We discussed kink, friendship, how one of us […]
Alcohol, Rape Culture’s Perfect Weapon
Trigger warning for blunt, direct discussion of sexual violence and assault. Growing up, my father continually reminded me to “consider the context” when I was flustered or angry about something. It is the first best piece of life guidance I have ever received, and probably why I am now a sociology major. The second best […]
Making Sexual Assault Prevention Fun
I have worked this past year with Smith College‘s On Standby program. Which is a student org run by the Health and Wellness Department which trains students and faculty how to interfere in a safe way when they see something that makes them feel “icky”. It’s about conflict resolution at its core, and about how to recognize […]
The Best Sex Book I Have Read in Awhile
Recently I have been reading “The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability“. and it is phenomenal. Its one of the best introductions into communicating about sex and breaking down some of the seriously messed up “sex myths” as well as an introduction into how sex changes depending on who is having it. Although it is […]
Language Matters
I was confronted with a troubling and conflicting incidence at work today. This is my Restaurant job, just to be specific. A manager of mine mentioned that a fellow co-worker had called him out on using the word “retarded”. This manager went on to defend his use of the word. This manager is a smart, […]
Combining Identities; Butch, Survivor, Teacher, Friend, Role Model, Resource
Trigger Warning for content regarding sexual assault. Recently I had a student contact me about someone close to her who had been sexually assaulted, and as a result no longer felt comfortable identifying as a woman. The student wanted to know what she could do to help her close friend, and was struggling to figure […]
