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Here are the workshops I currently offer, and am happy to custom tailor to fit your needs.
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Radical Dirty Talk: Using Enthusiastic Consent Without “Killing the Mood”
Asking for what you want is difficult. Saying “no” is difficult. Apparently “Consent is Sexy” but what does that even mean? How do I ask for what I want without totally killing the mood?
This “Consent 200-Level” workshop will cover how to negotiate, advocate, and ask for what you want using multiple strategies and skills. Pulling from some of the best BDSM and kink handbooks (SM101 and The Ultimate Guide to Topping/Bottoming) this workshop will give participants the skills they need to negotiate before, during, and after touch, play, or sexual encounters. We will spend time practicing asking for what we want in silly, hot, and always clear ways. This workshop is applicable to most ages (no one who is under the state’s legal age of consent), genders, abilities, and sexualities, vanilla and kinksters alike.
Beyond Verbal Consent: A Workshop About Communication, Journals, Zines, and Feelings
Sex Toys 101: Orientation
What’s new in toys and materials? What are the best buys? How do I find the right toy for me? That does WHAT?!
Sex toys are great, fun, tools to incorporate into your sex life. Whether it’s for individual self-care or for use with partners, this workshop will cover the ins and outs of sex toys. This introductory workshop will focus on answering your questions and leading your through hands-on games to help you become comfortable with these fun products. Let’s talk about the latest, the greatest, and the hype. Let’s talk about lube, harnesses, dildos, butt plugs, crops, dilators, vibrators, and so much more! Everything is up for discussion, nothing is taboo, and giggling is encouraged.
Come with your questions, friends, and a notebook.
Orally Oriented: A Mouth-Centric Oral Sex Workshop
Tongues, teeth, lips, throats, words, spit, heat, and pull. Mouths are a super versatile tool for creating full-body sensual experiences.
Moving away from genital-focused oral sex, this workshop will pay extra attention to what mouths can do, both by themselves and with bodies. “Orally Oriented” will focus on brainstorming the sensations we can create with our mouths, and then what to do with them. We will discuss how to incorporate barriers and toys into oral sex, and how to use dirty talk as another bridge from mouths to bodies. This workshop is a great reminder of how incredibly hot all mouths and bodies are, as well as how much we can do with a body part that may seem, to the untrained eye, an afterthought or a basic step.
Take Back the Dungeon: Trauma Survival and its Effects on (Alternative) Sexuality
We do not leave our histories at the door when we negotiate, play, or seek out others to date, love, play with, and learn from.
This workshop will be a safe space for survivors of trauma (however you define that) and their allies. We will discuss how to live within our trauma to have more fulfilling, safer, great full body, power exchange-y, sexual experiences. We will cover how to create safe spaces in our kink lives, and how to address trauma when negotiating (for quick and long term play).
We will discuss how to respond to the “drama” in BDSM communities in a way that acknowledges it for what it often is: sexual violence, assault, victim blaming, rape, survivors not being supported, and perpetrators not being held accountable. So much of BDSM and kink is about the balance between control and carefully negotiated vulnerability. It can be about playing within, and mocking, the extremely dark, and sometimes extremely terrifying and personal parts of our lives, histories, and spaces around us.
This workshop is about how to take back the dungeon as survivors, for ourselves, and for the communities we want to exist.
Intersections of Radical Thought, Identity Politics, BDSM and Kink
Tired of Kink 101 and rope workshops?
This workshop will serve as a safe space to discuss and explore how D/s, S&M, and kink fit into the radical and feminist ethics/politics and our everyday lives. On top of the shaming and stigmatizing of kinky sexualities by mainstream society, as radicals and activists we often struggle with the ways it seems to be, or is perceived as, being contradictory to our politics and ethics around violence, consent, coercion, and feminism. Given how much of kink education is focused on skill-sharing, we will also seek to broaden the conversation to focus on kink as a sexuality, identity, and community.
The workshop will largely be discussion-based and focused on/shaped by the questions and issues that participants bring to the table.