My posts recently have been pretty heavy-handed. So because I am not in the mood to do a toy review, I wanted to discuss one of the reasons why I love sex.
It’s hilarious. And that rules.
Sex is funny. It’s playful. Its meant to be fun! Pleasure is your effin’ birthright.
Pursue that shit!
I may have already blogged about this, but I often start out my sex ed classes with telling students (regardless of age) that sex should be this really wonderful thing. However, sex is really really big. It’s a big concept, and it’s something that you can go to college to study, and that affects the world around you in so many ways it would take years to just scratch the surface. Sex education is about providing students with the resources and tools to navigate sexuality, so that it can be as positive as possible.
I have had students come up to me afterwards and tell me that I was the first person to tell them that sex was not a bad thing.
My sister asked me why sex-positive sex education was important. Well, she is sixteen so it was worded more like “I don’t understand why you do what you do.”
Well, let me tell you all about why sex positive education is going to change the world.
Remember my post earlier this year about how sexuality education was about a lot more than just sexual acts and gender? How it’s about confidence and body image and overall health? It takes a village, etc.?
If you tell a person that they are not broken, and that they are wonderful, and that their body is a good thing, that’s groundbreaking. It’s radical. And if you help a person feel good about their body and their sexuality, they will take pride in themselves as an individual. They will take care of themselves, and have a healthy body image and sexuality. And the more people who feel good about themselves, the happier communities will be. It’s about confidence, and joy.
It’s about health, and it’s about feeling good about who you are. And having your community support your health, and that includes your sexuality.
As Emily says at the start of her classes, and as I have started using in my classes, it’s important not to “yuck someone else’s yum”.
Don’t Yuck My Yum.
This means that if you find something I love really repulsive/weird/gross/ungodly, that’s fine. But don’t let me know that you think what I love is repulsive/weird/gross/ungodly, because we all like different things. Snowflakes, remember?
As soon as I tell someone that what they “yum” is a “yuck” to me, they may feel ashamed of their sexuality. And that is unhealthy.
So pursuit your pleasure in consensual ways, and spread the word that what you want from sex is normal and good and totally rad.